A storm has taken place and it has destroyed many of the hidden gems. The hidden gems are now in plain sight and it comes in the form of social media. Although oversharing the details of your intimate relationships is not new, sharing the falsehoods of the “Perfect” relationship on social media is. It is uncommonly common today and people are losing sight of truly connecting with their partners.
What am I saying? I posed a question on the last episode of VIBEZ Podcast, season two, asking whether a relationship is official without social media. My guest couldn’t answer the question and I sensed her thinking about whether her relationships were official. So many social media users overshare their personal lives via internet for unknown reasons. When relationships are shared on social media, it poses many questions about the validity of the union.
If I post you on my social media then that means that we’re officially together and monogamous. If I post you all the time on my social media then that also means that you’re the one for me. Also, it means that I expect you to acknowledge our relationship and tell your friends about it. These are reasons that I believe people use when answering this question. I also believe that many people really just want the attention and validation for self worth and esteem purposes. Does anyone really connect with their partners outside of social media?
Why is a relationship considered official once its been posted to social media? Were you not together beforehand? Did you actually communicate with each other that you were in a relationship as committed partners? Are you waiting on a social media friend’s stamp of approval? Can you be in an official relationship without ever posting your partner on social media?
I feel as if I was born in the baby boomer era. I’m not posting you on my social media until (If ever) I feel that I truly just want to share our happiness with the world. The sharing of relationships should be at the discretion of those parties who are together. If you both say that “Let’s make it official by posting on social media” then that’s your right. What if one person decides to just post you and your relationship status without your knowledge? Will that cause conflict between the both of you?
My overall question is simple. Why is social media such an important construct in the validity of your relationship?